All to often women think they have to go to a club, drink a little to much before they can let loose and free her wild, uninhibited beautiful feminine energy that allows her body to move from her pulsating life force. This scenario often leads to waay to much unwanted attention from Men who think it’s ok to hump your butt while you are dancing. EEK! This happened to me recently and I realized how lucky I was that I had a space and community to dance my ass off without feeling the need to protect myself all night long.
Sexual energy is life force. When women feel safe enough to be in a community without hiding or making a joke about her sexual energy, women can finally be whole.
My body purrs like a frisky kitty several times a day, every day and I refuse to shut her down; years of body based practices and a nourishing lifestyle has fine tuned my body to this frequency of joy and truthfulness that allows me to integrate this friskiness into my whole being. This is my daily Erotic Discovery.
This purring is my connection to LIFE. It is my body’s tremendous ability to transmit pleasure through my physical body to my brain. What triggers this impulse is LOVE for LIFE. Dancing is one way of experiencing this Love for Life. Music is another. Being in Nature certainly always brings me to Loving Life. Purrrrrrr.
I’ve spent a lot of time asking myself why does the word Erotic make so many people uncomfortable. I know that most people’s mind go immediately to Porn. Whatever your thoughts and feeling around pornography is, it is a huge industry that caters mostly to men. Due to this fact many see this road leading to only one place, the degradation and subjugation towards women.
As French novelist Balzac have been sited to say, eroticism is dependent not just upon an individual’s sexual morality, but the culture and time that individual resides in as well. I found this to be satisfactory because the transposing of eroticism and pornography is a product of our recent culture. A time where overt sexuality sells jeans, booze, cars, films and really everything that can be sold.
Cracking Open: The Erotic Power
Like writer and activist Audre Lorde, I am interested in changing our culture around the Erotic. I desire to help women become aware and then to a loving relationship with their erotic nature. Their eros. I believe this can bring them directly to their feminine wisdom and power. The deliberate dismissal of our erotic power has kept women in very nice acceptable and manageable positions. (As I mentioned earlier, dry humping my butt while I am dancing with my girlfriends comes from a long long history of women taking that shit)
It is time to crack open.
What if our mothers knew of or honored her erotic power? That this energy lived/lives deep inside her, underneath her duties to her family, job, and fear of her feminine power was the key to her freedom all along?
That whatever shame was brought upon her as a young girl around her beauty and love of life could even now be rectified. What would she have taught us about our own feminine power? I want to know.
Well, I am lucky. I have a life that allows me the freedom to inquire about these things. It may seem frivolous next to topics of war, economy and welfare.
I beg to differ.
I am ultimately talking about valuing LIFE. All life.
Oh how I have cracked open when I feel deeply into how precious life is. This pleasure is powerful medicine.
Somehow, I feel my Japanese female ancestors’ bellies relax as I enter my safe sanctuary, turn up the music and let my erotic power dance me.
Women readers, if you would like to go on an exploration of your erotic power, join me for Pole Panache, a weekly Pole and Erotic Dance class or Erotic Discovery, a monthly gathering on or nearest the Full Moon.
Please go to http://www.movementstudiola.com to register.
Hi Rie,
I love your post, it is so true and the world needs women, who help other women to connect with their bodies and sensuality to get free and into their power. I do this with leading a women’s group and Yonimassages, this brings so much healing.
I’ll never forget beeing with you and Robin as beautiful roommates in Tuscany some years ago and how you brought us the sensual movement and parts of your pole dancing in the evenings. It was so much fun and deeply touching.
If I lived in LA, I would come to your Erotic Dance Classes instantly
You’re such an inspiration!
Love and blessings to you
Nora
Thank you so much for connecting Nora. I also treasure my memories of Tuscany with you and Robin! I wish we could have a reunion there. I love that you are providing such an important service to women through Yonimassage. The Yoni is grossly over looked when it comes to massage and with your sensitivity, your clients must be in heaven.
If you ever find yourself coming to LA, please come see me!
Big Love,
Rie